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Money Can Actually Buy Happiness- You Just Need To Look Where To Shop!

For all the wisdom I had at the time, I always thought that money can’t buy happiness. But what I didn’t know was that being conscious about how and where you spend your money can do some good to your heart besides pepping up your happiness.

Image source: ‘When money can’t buy happiness; in rd.com

I distinctly remember-while in high school in playtime instead of ganging up and fooling around I’d hang out alone doodling Be Happy” on my worn out homework folders often. Somehow this would make me feel comfortable. In fact whenever I had free time I would be thinking of things utterly inconsequential and entirely beside the point at the time.  I’d be lost in contemplation totally oblivious of my surroundings.

Had I freaked out or somehow distanced myself from reality?

I wasn’t sure except that I hadn’t lost my bearings. I don’t know if it was my mind alone. Strangely it was secretly dwelling on Bobby McFerrin’ s song “Don’t Worry, Be Happy”. The reggae jazz pop from the 80’s wouldn’t leave me alone. It just wouldn’t get out of my hair. Was this just another clickbait title I was looking at or was a life of contentment beckoning me?

I just couldn’t make much of it then.

I’ll never be certain even to this day. Regardless at the core of my every decision lay the motivation to be happier. In a way what I sought was a sense of living that isn’t overrun by fear, pain and loss but rather reverence, appreciation and affection.

Now everyone’s definition of happiness is certainly unique depending upon their values, passions, experience, age, etc. but intrinsically everybody is after moments of happiness in their lives one way or another. The catchphrase Money can’t buy you happiness” has lost teeth, proving the opposite as more relevant. More money in fact increases one’s level of happiness.

But before you begin see this as an excuse to work harder and longer hours to bring in more money, be mindful that having more money doesn’t necessarily make you happier; it’s how you spend it that equates to more happiness.

Lately I had the opportunity to read Elizabeth Dunn and Michael Norton’s Happy Money: The Science of Smarter Spending”. It reminded me of something that I hadn’t really thought about earlier; that if managed wisely the money I had worked so hard for, can indeed elevate the quality of my life. 

Your state of mind in fact shapes how you experience the world. This means that spending money to enhance your overall wellbeing is generally a great investment

With this in mind today I live contented spending on following six things that allow my money to make me happier than ever. These ideas are a combination of what I’ve uncovered while perusing a great many writers as well as a few discoveries of my own through personal experience. You can always say that these are the ideas whose time will come’ thus implying that there’s no  newness in them but then perhaps ’you’re the one who’s going to make them work for you’ !

Image source: ‘Can Money Buy Happiness? Here’s What to Know If You’re on a Tight Budget’ by Charlotte Hilton Andersen in rd.com

Spend More on Your Future

Living in the moment surely is one great way to approach life but not at the cost of your future happiness. Setting aside money for your future is an infallible way to ensure you bask in the warmth of certainty and protection. An innate sense of being grounded will keep you unfettered, free from anxiety and will let you explore more opportunities further down the road. Trust me it will also help you stop living from paycheck to paycheck.

Head Back to School If You Hate Your Job

Go back to education or sign up to refresh your skill if you’re unhappy in your current line of work. Back in Office, there would come moments when FOMO (Fear of missing out) felt overpowering. Anxiety of missing out on cutting edge skill and knowledge would come as a rude awakening. Not before long I realized that this was the time to invest in me and make a new start. I didn’t fail thereafter because I’d learned to how to make a successful change in myself. I’d upgrade my knowledge and skills whenever I thought I can’t handle it.

Pursue a new area of interest if you think all the hustle and grind so far has gone south. It’s never too late to be what you might have been. Luckily, there’s an abundance of resources to help you advance your skills in any field. Once you’ve got the knack of things it will be easy to augment yourself. And to be there you need to invest to help you reach your next goal.

My call! Change doesn’t mean a threat. It always brings an opportunity in its wake.

Splurge a Little

I think dropping a ton of cash for something extravagant will never buy you the same bang for your buck because no matter how remarkable you perceive it at first, you’ll get used to having it over the time until it becomes just another object minus all sense of elation.

Image source: ‘5 ways to Attract more Money in your Life using Law of Attraction’ by Mohit Tahiliani in lawofattraction4u.org

So I gave myself small affordable indulgences. I discovered it was a smart way to find joy in minor extravagances. A little luxury for a big smile in exchange is doable and never a better bargain.

Buy Moments Not Things

No keeping up with the Joneses; it’s an endless cycle and it doesn’t make anyone happy. At least it didn’t work for me.  I don’t buy something expensive just because everyone else has it; I buy what I believe I want or need. There are a lot many reasons someone buys something but if it’s meant to maximize happiness, then buying a life experience that is in line with your personality, is more rewarding and your best bet for a lasting happiness.

When people spend money just to throw up or uphold a certain image of themselves, it doesn’t bring happiness. Instead deep within empty silence and dismay will continue to mock.

The key to zooming out and becoming alive is to spend your money on experiences rather than material things. Any tangible stuff howsoever expensive or badly wanted tends to lose sheen after a while-both literally and figuratively.

Besides knowing you can’t have access to something all the time may help you appreciate it more when you do.

Memories on the other hand never get old.

Fund Your Future

It sounds like a long way off for the moment but the earlier you start the better. It’s imperative that you catch the wave when there’s time. You’ve got more future than your past coming up. You bet it’s hard to set aside a chunk of your income for your twilight years. But you can’t put a price on feeling financially secure. Thanks to the snowballing effect my savings gathered more snow as it grew becoming larger and much quicker than I thought. I never have had to save as much as I grew old.

Live a Life of Simple Joys

Admittedly as they say, money in abundance if mishandled never makes you happy. Why is that? Is abundance truly the enemy of appreciation?

When we become aware that we have the means to splurge on a luxury item of our choice every single day, we kinda take it for granted and not appreciate what our life would’ve been sans bells and whistles.

By reining in how often you afford yourself the luxuries and the opulence, you’ll be able to truly appreciate and enjoy them more fully.

Image source: ‘Can Money Really Buy Happiness?’ by Jade Wu in psychologytoday.com

Have you ever noticed how some people seem to get crankier with age while others become more content? I have wondered about that so often, more after retiring. And this is what has surprised me most…

The happiest folks I know aren’t the ones who hold on to everything. They are the ones who have learned what to let go and when to do things that will make life worth living.

Think about it. Are you missing something? Take a closer look at what lies ahead for you. Your intentions and aspirations will decide what comes next.

So, bend the curve a wee bit more, splurge some extra and guarantee yourself brighter happier moments in days to come! 

Are You Working to Live Or Living To Work?

Why making a Life is more important than making a living!

Are you someone who absolutely loves heading to the Office every day? Or even if you don’t maybe you’re connected enough that you simply cannot resist showing up. You keep giving your all unceasingly; sometimes murdering yourself, all the time hoping that this turns out to be your best bet at acing everybody’s attention and getting taller professionally.

I guess, people who fit in this category are unwittingly married to their jobs and often are set out as living to work’.

If you’re a Zoomer, you know what it’s like; the excitement of being resourceful, independent and liberal is overwhelming, way better than the dudes from Gen-X might have experienced. You’re the perfect portrayal of a deep seated personal connection to the work that you do for a fat pay-check. Perhaps you believe that success happens only to those who have an all–round desire and true commitment to work.  You’re not unaware as well that this runs the risk of compromising health and quality of life outside work place.

Yet on the flip side, many choose to separate the idea of ‘doing what I love from “I’ll do what I must to make a living”. For them it like ‘discovering a long lost passion’; so foreign and yet entirely removed from reality where work is what you do and not who you are!

Speaking of which, do you take on more work than you must? Are you putting in more hours than you ought to? When is the time to quietly start doing less to the extent that it appears not quitting after all?

How bad is too much of a good thing?

Living to work for most of us is like crossing the fine line between being occupied and being eaten-up by work. Your work life balance is at risk when you let disproportionate amount of your time and energy spent on your career.

People, who live to work count heavily on work for thrills and kicks and shut out other sources of joy and happiness. What’s worse, addicted to the adrenaline that comes from solving a crisis or tying self-worth to work, these people would often find themselves on the fast track to burnout.

See…over engagement is never free of its perils. With time, distraught work-life balance takes its toll. Your ability to handle stress is impaired and your overall well being gets affected. And more often than not, you won’t be to see it because you’re moving so fast, completely absorbed in the reality that you’ve created — knowingly or not.

So what’s the point?

Image source: ‘7 ways to reduce work-related stress’ by Neil Spooner in resetmindbodysoul.co.uk on Oct. 08, 2020.

When you fail to find the ‘just right’ level of engagement, you live your life on one extreme or the other always struggling to find the right kind of work-life balance.

But the grass is not greener for those either who consider doing little less at work, re prioritize work versus life or refuse to take a bigger chew than the one’s mandated or must.

Hell yes of course!…When you work to live, you miss out on that rich sense of fulfillment that only a meaningful pursuit brings forth.

Did I miss something?

The 10 hour work day -like so many people I braced for 30 long years, -never ever for once went out of fashion. It stood firm then and it’s as stoic today except that nowadays it’s your call how to balance everything in the new age. The strings were as tight then as they are now.

Jinxed and marred with bad breaks, I spent an entire lifetime slogging to build a career and in the process woefully destroyed part of me.  I kept judging whether it was of any worth at all, despite knowing all the while that in reality I couldn’t undoor reboot’ anything. I had no widget, no push button…none other than a blue sky above and some wishful thinking. I yearned for one. So many things I would’ve loved to rescript for a better tomorrow! Of course, there was always another tactical choice at hand; Do it the new way. This certainly was a flattering option and like everybody else my age, I was gullible. I fell for it and chose to use it.

The thought of shaping a better life and a taller me never felt fictional then.

Image source: ‘New Signs You’re Stressed at Work’ by Christine Bernier Lienke in flexjobs.com

I know I’ve never been great at work and I have struggled long enough trying to figure out why I wasn’t fine and famous at it. I would usually end up comparing myself to friends and rivals who have been fervently neck deep in work and have made some great careers and good living out of it.

It’s only after so many years of imperfections and wanting, I could discover that I was  in fact truly happy, living my life doing what I wanted to do- endeavoring, indulging and battling! Sometimes winning at others loosing, yet never letting myself forget the battles that I survived.

 I had chosen to work what I “could do” and not what I “wanted to do”.

If only I had known then what I know now, maybe I could have had both of them a lot sooner- living a great life and making a living the way I love most’.

I would let the life happen!

Life is short and full of shifts and ebbs and flows. You just can’t exist to make a living. It’s more than about living decently… ordinarily! We all deserve more and entitled to a life full of joy and happiness.

And who said it’s too late to flatter yourself?

I know how important is to earn for a good living. But you can make a living and still make a life! It’s all about perspective; about whom you love most; you as a person or as a pen pusher. With pliable mindset and a bit of allowance for wise adjustments you could let the real troubleshooter in you make life deep and smiling.

Image source: ‘Live to work or work to live? 72 per cent of Brits go to work just to get by’ by Owen Gough in smallbusiness.co.uk on Dec.08, 2017.

Of course, ‘working to liveor ‘living to work’ aren’t the only choices available. It’s absolutely possible to put the two shoes together and yet walk on sunshine. Breaking away from either of the two could though actually help you find a breezy life-work balance in a hurry.

Seriously, sometimes taking a few steps back — or a few steps forward — breaks the barrier standing between you and the life you have painted for yourself!